
"Emotions, in my experience, aren't covered by single words. I don't believe in "sadness," "joy," or "regret." Maybe the best proof that the language is patriarchal is that it oversimplifies feeling. I'd like to have at my disposal complicated hybrid emotions, Germanic train-car constructions like, say, "the happiness that attends disaster." Or: "the disappointment of sleeping with one's fantasy." I'd like to show how "intimations of mortality brought on by aging family members" connects with "the hatred of mirrors that begins in middle age." I'd like to have a word for "the sadness inspired by failing restaurants" as well as for "the excitement of getting a room with a minibar." I've never had the right words to describe my life, and now that I've entered my story, I need them more than ever. "
I have always been a little reluctant to read Middlesex, my reservations stem from many places, but mostly I had just heard a lot of upset reviews revolving around the idea of someone trying to write about the experience of growing up intersex who hasn't been there....and of using that person's body as a kind of metaphor for the American immigrant experience. Like any debate about who has the right to write about whom, it can get tiresome and seems pointless in the face of honestly trying to engage with the material in a critical way. Eugenides may be a lot of things, but after reading Middlesex and having read the Virgin Suicides years before, he is an undeniably rich and fantastic storyteller. His characters are well rounded, empathetic, impassioned and engaging - fully developed humans in the context of a changing America. He situates his stories in Detroit, arguably the most obvious symbol of the shifting realities and expectations involved in the so called American dream.
Our narrator, Cal Stephanides begins the story, establishing a framing device wherein we recognize Cal as a stylish, intellectual, 41 year old member of the Foreign Service whose attempts at romance have been less than successful. Cal was born intersex and begins his own story generations before, recognizing the fateful shaping of his physicality through genetics and romance. Cal's story is inseparable from the story of the Stephanides family, a Greek family that emigrated to the United States before the depression. The novel is divided into three major parts, the love story of Cal's grandparents, the love story of Cal's parents, and Cal's own coming of age saga. Eugenides's storytelling techniques, linguistic and referential choices and his subject matter are intimately tied to Greek mythology and drama. In a move that seems to be trying to draw reference to the narrator's gendered hybridity, Eugenidies adopts both first person and third person omniscient narration depending on the situation, allowing us to grow close to Cal while also helping us to delve into the other characters for key moments in the plot. This experiment is alternately effective and distracting, at some points you aren't sure who is addressing you as the reader - it also seems to develop too much at the expense of the climactic point in Cal's life for which the previous narrative was supposedly preparing you. I spent most of the novel waiting to get to know Cal, waiting to really hear what Cal was thinking about himself and his life and what he wanted. Instead we get a long lead up and then a rushed almost dreamy whirlwind of facts, asking the reader to fill in the blanks between 17 and 41. This isn't about wanting a big revelation or that I wanted Cal to wrestle with his identity to the point that some narratives concerning non traditionally gendered people tend towards, I just felt like after all that investment, I wanted to feel like I understood Cal as a character...but all of his choices seemed surprising and almost half hearted. It is in this that I feel Eugenides fails, he fails to fully develop Cal and I feel like this is where the criticisms have come from. Since Cal remains in the background as an individual, hid body becomes the whole of him and he becomes a literary tool in a way that none of the other characters do.
From the framing device we are thrown back into a small Greek village where Cal's grandparents raise silkworms. They flee their country because of war and leave everyone they know behind them, allowing Desdemona and Lefty (brother and sister) to become the husband and wife they had always wanted to be. They come to America alternately opening bars, restaurants, becoming part of the bootlegging trade, having children, wrestling with guilt over their relationship and navigating their new reality as members of the racially charged Detroit landscape. Cal's parents are conceived on a night after Desdemona and Lefty have watched a sexually charged play about the minotaur, a hybrid monster with which Cal finds spiritual kinship. Moments like this draw out the magical realist elements of the narrative. Some of these moments work better than others, I personally loved the minotaur scene because of its hyper dramatic stage setting and focus on Greek mythological underpinnings for contemporary Greek American life. As for Cal's family moving to a street called Middlesex or Cal living in Berlin (a trope campily utilized in Hedwig and the Angry Inch), I could have done without the heavy handed symbols...instead of achieving the impression that Cal's life is a part of a flow of cultural history, it tended to bring you out of the story. So too does the way in which the Eugenides family seems to be at the flashpoints of the past century's historical moments, and not in a "you always remember where you were on such and such a day" kind of way, but in a more Forrest Gump kind of way.
The most effective and gripping section of the novel is during Cal's adolescence when she begins to feel herself fall in love with a classmate and friend, a girl we come to know only as "the obscure object" (thusly named because of Luis Bunuel). After I got over my annoyance that Eugenides would literally refer to Cal's first love as an object (really???), their story became the most straightforward, honest and familiar point of the novel. Callie's relationship with the object is acknowledged quietly by both of them, takes subtle but emotionally fraught forms, leaves both parties utterly confused and assured simultaneously and comes bubbling to the surface in the face of a growing awareness that it cannot exist in the open in their world. Callie's adolescence is difficult to begin with since her pre adolescent beauty turns into an awkward phase that cannot be ignored, and her relationship with the object forces her to perceive herself as different from her peers. Apparently, Eugenides wrote a pared down section of this part of the book for the New Yorker, which I am desperate to read. He captures the angst that sits right next to absolute joy as your best friend in adolescence curls up to you while complaining about a boy and the terror in a possible misstep.
Everything after this feels a bit underdeveloped, Cal is rushed to a gender identity specialist (for those who are familiar with the history of the intersex and or transgendered rights movement, this doctor will resemble the very real Dr. John Money), learns that he is genetically male and runs away to San Francisco. This is a part of the novel where it does feel that Eugenides is out of his depth, he fails to capture queer culture in San Francisco in a believable or even emotionally honest way and attempts to recapture the magical realist style that nurtured the first half of the book. After investing in Cal for so long, the reader is left to draw their own conclusions, fill in the gaps and just leap to the future without a sense of how Cal really and truly becomes who he is. I do not regret reading Middlesex, I just wish that it had either been much longer or much shorter...an odd request I know, but one that I hope makes sense.